Don’t ignore your own needs. You are an important part of her recovery and you need to take care of yourself as well. Family and friends may only ask about mom and baby and not ask about how you are doing, which may make you feel alone and excluded.
- Tell your partner how you are feeling. It is normal to feel helpless and worry that you are unable to help her
- Get support from family and friends. You may feel frustrated because you were not prepared to deal with postpartum depression
- Eat healthy foods
- Consider counselling
- Get enough sleep
- Be active
- See your doctor or nurse if you begin to feel depressed as well. Paternal Postpartum Depression is a very real and serious problem for some new fathers/partners and their families
Signs You May Be Depressed
Paternal postpartum depression is a very real condition that can happen anytime after the birth or adoption of your baby. It may happen even during pregnancy, go away after the birth and come back 3-6 months later. If your partner is depressed, there is a good chance you are too.
You may feel:
- Overwhelmed with work and caring for your baby and family as you are faced with new and unfamiliar roles and responsibilities
- Stressed, tired and frustrated that your partners’ depression isn’t going away
- Angry, resentful and start pulling away from family and friends
Be aware of these feelings. You may be experiencing postpartum depression. It’s not something you just get over. It’s a serious mental health issue that needs to be treated.
If left untreated, paternal postpartum depression can result in damaging, long-term issues for the entire family. With treatment and support, you can get better.
Be there, get involved, and with help you will get better.