You may be the first person to notice that something is just not right with your partner. She may not be acting like she used to. She may be sad and can’t stop crying. She may be really angry and frustrated with you, or she may be worrying all the time and can’t seem to relax or even sleep.
All you know is that she is not happy and now you are feeling unhappy as well.
Remember, you didn’t cause this to happen. You are not to blame.
Depression and Anxiety are real illnesses that can occur anytime within one year after the birth or adoption of your baby.
Listen and allow her to tell you how she is feeling. Take it seriously and take action!
Getting enough sleep may be the most important step to helping her get better, and the most difficult. Develop a parenting team, work together by taking shifts to give each other a break. Get help from family and friends. Get involved with the care of your baby (i.e. feeding, bathing and changing diapers)
A very small number of mothers may have very serious symptoms and they will need immediate help.
If you notice any of these signs and symptoms get help right away.
Don’t ignore your own needs. You are an important part of her recovery and you need to take care of yourself as well. Family and friends may only ask about mom and baby and not ask about how you are doing, which may make you feel alone and excluded.
Paternal postpartum depression is a very real condition that can happen anytime after the birth or adoption of your baby. It may happen even during pregnancy, go away after the birth and come back 3-6 months later. If your partner is depressed, there is a good chance you are too.
Be aware of these feelings. You may be experiencing postpartum depression. It’s not something you just get over. It’s a serious mental health issue that needs to be treated.
If left untreated, paternal postpartum depression can result in damaging, long-term issues for the entire family. With treatment and support, you can get better.
Be there, get involved, and with help you will get better.
Video: Partner Support.How partners play an important role in providing support and how they can take care of themselves.